Celebrations > Weddings > 5 TOP TIPS FOR YOUR SOFREH AGHD BY SHABNAM REZAEI
How to Make the Most of Your Big Fat Persian Wedding
a Sofreh that you will love – The
Sofreh Aghd, although traditional and Persian,
should reflect your taste and style. There are
so many different color schemes, styles and sizes
that are open to you. Do not feel boxed in to create
your mother’s sofreh. If you just don’t
care, then put someone in charge of putting together
a traditional one for you.
2. Use the Items on the Sofreh to personalize your event – Although
you should certainly include the traditional items on the sofreh, which
are important symbols for your marriage, you can also include other
things that you like. One couple placed a portrait of their family
on the Sofreh.
3. Use the Sofreh to express culture – If
you are a mixed couple use the Sofreh as a spread that will unite the
culture. Incorporate flowers, fruits, coins, books of scriptures, or
other edible delicacies from the other culture. This will show respect
to the family and show that you are one. One couple we know placed
two beautiful and large flower arrangements from the Philipines to
incorporate the partner’s culture. Speak to your partner’s
family about any specific items that may be significant and make sure
they are ok with you doing this.
4. Include family in the planning – If
you are Persian, your mother has been looking forward to preparing
your Sofreh since the day you were born. Make sure you speak to her
and all other relatives and friends who get excited with details and
preparation. They may give you some great ideas a
nd they will feel
honored that you included them in the preparation.
5. Put someone in charge – for the
big day, make sure you put someone in charge who knows what they are
doing. This person should ideally be older, and have experienced a
few weddings, and should be able to communicate in the different lanaguages
that may be present on your big day (English, Farsi, and so on. Be
sure to hand out to your guests, wedding programs and explanations
of the Sofreh.